A Satanist shares how to cope with the Thanksgiving – Christmas season and the stresses of nosey family members, Trump-voting uncles, invitations to prayer and all that icky stuff.
Here is the advice in abbreviated form:
- Know your own desires. If you don’t want to argue politics or go to church, don’t.
- Know how to say ‘No’ – basically the same as above.
- Know that sometimes you have to cut off family members who refuse to accept your allegience to Satan.
- You don’t have to argue (see “No” above).
- You are not alone, there are plenty of other Satanists out there willing to support you.
None of it is bad per se, just a little self-absorbed. Satan is big among frustrated snowflakes, it seems. The third bit of advice about cutting family members out of your life is something I have seen on the internet. I’m all for setting boundaries, but it strikes me as being extreme. I could see severe addiction or mental illness forcing that, but some people seem to invoke it for mothers who refuse to go along with their vegan diets or uncles who voted Trump.
I’ve never had problem fitting in with my own family, even though I have made some pretty bone-headed decisions in my life, but I understand it can be tough for some people. Here is my advice for surviving the holidays:
- You are not as important as you imagine. Your family loves you but for the most part does not think very much about you. If they ask about your private life they are just making conversation. Feel free to wave them off with vague generalities.
- Some people take politics very personally. Don’t be one of them. People are free to disagree and still find the good in each other. In fact, learning to love someone in spite of their opinions is a liberating and humanizing experience.
- Learn to forgive, it feels good and does not mean you have to be a doormat.
- If you have to set boundaries, leave a line of communication open and be unfailingly polite. Toxic relationships = junkie cousin who steals family heirlooms to buy drugs. You may have to avoid him for the foreseeable future. But keep in mind that people can change, or at least mellow out.